The I Robot just did not seem to want to be visible on my phone and then I discovered that it had not charged well which was the problem. Took me much too long to figure that one but I am perhaps a little sleepy still from my recovering from the flu. I really did an excellent job of taking care of myself. Not my preferred state probably but then I wasn't that sick that I really needed help although it is always nice to have someone else go down and get the food once you can eat again. Moving on and the flu shot is really not bothering me at all. I did contemplate cancelling because of the weather warning and my snow tires were going to go on the 14th of November I thought but then that got changed. However we have radials and they do well in snow so off I went and got my flu shot and it was most efficient I must say but it was a nurse giving it so there you are; interesting to see nurses in the pharmacy. They are very practical and really very efficient when they are managing cases assigned to them. I have only ever been in a hospital when my two children were born and apparently only two weeks when I had the breakdown (nervous, mental and physical - amazing as it felt like forever) that is to stay overnight. They are not a favourite place with me and I have to take that back actually when the hospital called and said my husband was not going to be able to come home we rushed in and the doctor pretty much said there was nothing to do he had been in there about a month after he just couldn't manage at home (he was headed for his chair lift on the stairs when he tripped it appeared and down he went and then he went in by ambulance to see if anything had been broken). I was supporting him at the time of the fall and went down with him and it just happened so fast. I refused to leave him then and spent two nights sleeping by his side on the nightchair in the hospital (it does fold out to a bed sort of). I forgot about that when I was writing. I never left his side for more than a few moments then (he never really spoke very much the last week as the nurse would put him on Skype; the decline was both gradual and fast really). The hospital was so crowded as it was COVID time but they did let me stay which was wonderful of them really as the wards were packed with people. Moving on and I got off track nurses are very efficient and they took excellent care of my daughter after her birth I must say that (of both of them actually) until I was able to have them in the room with me and I took care of them and went home as soon as I could. But then I was going to go into medicine and had already read so many textbooks in my youth. Oh wow I did really get off track.
We were on our way to the Nursing Station at the Medical Building on St Joseph maybe six weeks earlier I am remembering (sometime in late January) and he had just suddenly sunk down on the porch and we couldn't get him up (my daughter was with me at this time). The Paramedics at the fire hall came and helped us and he wanted to go back into bed that time and so they took him up. Mostly he stayed there and would get up with his walkers (there were two originally three with one in the basement as he liked the support but we didn't put a chair lift into the basement he decided he didn't want to go down there anymore; one on each floor and then the chair lift up and down). I had sort of forgotten all of that but he decided to go downstairs that day so got the walker and then one of us usually helped him to the chair lift from the walker and it just suddenly happened again and down we both went. Strange that he did that but he did have encephalopathy. He wanted to stay home and it worked well until it did not unfortunately. He was happy in the hospital that last month of his life as there were stronger people to help him. He did say that to me that I wasn't strong enough (but partly he outweighed me by about 50 pounds plus). I was pretty strong but not that strong.
Sometimes I think you have to do that; write it down and then it sort of passes from your memory (not completely but the pain of it passes I think). You are left with the memory which brings him back again whenever you are thinking about him although I think if you live with someone for 54.5 years they are pretty much always a part of you. I must say that the Paramedics on the ambulances were really so very very helpful the couple of times that we called for them usually to take him to the hospital.
Anyway it took me a little while to get that Robot running since it had to charge properly. Somehow I must have knocked the plug and didn't notice and usually I check it before I use it and I didn't this time as it runs so very well normally (my fault but I am perhaps just a little sleepy today) sleep improving rapidly but it does take a few days.
The matches are going well and I have already proven four of the fourteen crossover points in between battling with the Robot. It isn't its fault as I am the one in charge and I didn't do the usual checks so there you go. These matches are interesting because I can not really place them other than with the correct grandparent. But this is the Buller line so in reality I am looking Edwin Denner Buller and Ellen Taylor. I think I know who Ellen Taylor (likely/possibly the daughter of Thomas Taylor and Ellen Roberts who married 29 Jun 1857 at Saint Martin Birmingham and I know both of their parents and a very nice line going back). I even have matches that follow perfectly on the Roberts Line and the Taylor line but not on Chromosome 5 so I suspect that no one has tested that has a match on Chromosome 5. When a member of this family Taylor/Roberts wrote to me he was asking me too many questions about my family without sharing any DNA so I really was a stone wall basically and I never heard from him again nor did he test his DNA as far as I can tell. He would have to tell me that he did that and where he matched. So he is running around with my grandparent/etc back into the past and it is basically valueless to him as far as I am concerned. That is one thing that I am very cautious about is people asking questions when I do not know anything about them except what they claim; I did learn that as an adult because I led basically a very sheltered childhood. The knife attack was a turning point in my life at 18 years of age (I was not physically injured). So I was pondering at the time I started up the vacuum and failed the robot by not being attentive so that it could do its job. Of course that is the sort of person that I am; I have almost no interest in money other than having enough to buy my groceries and I guess take care of this house but then I would rather just have one room but that is a whole other story. Money is the root of all evil and yet it has opened life to such splendour from the days when homo sapiens lived in a cave. It has made life easier for billions. So there you go. Someone is ringing my emergency phone and I absolutely do not answer it. It is my phone to call out on; don't phone it. By now all of Edward's correspondents should be aware that he is not going to pick up on that phone.
Funny but interesting in a way how complicated our lives have become from that sultry easy life of the 1950s when I was young and then suddenly we had DNA in our minds. I remember the day that the Watson/Crick notice came. It was fascinating to hear that and in my mind that was the way the world was going to move closer and closer to our fundamental DNA and so we are. Enough philosophy I need to check that robot as my phone is maybe getting too old to maintain that good contact it used to have. I do know I need to buy a new phone and Rogers has sent me an interesting idea so must read that and not just read skim as I did.
The robot is still doing its job patiently and carefully and it has about another 20 minutes to run. I am probably better off running up and the stairs to check on it rather than using my phone (healthier for sure).
The Robot finished and did its usual great job. Perhaps one day I will buy one of those newer ones that have a bin. You can program this one but all it does is vacuum the rugs; no big deal but it does a great job for about 1 hour and 15 minutes (a lot of vacuuming and I suspect there is no dust left in that rug). They are good rugs though although my husband said when I bought them you can not put them in the basement and I said but that is where I want them. He generally let me do whatever I wanted but did wonder sometimes I think. I was his memory for the things he did in genealogy and through the years we grew much closer together than even at the beginning probably because we shared so many things in common as the years passed although even at the beginning we shared a great deal in common but I suppose our interests changed and not at the same pace. But he did have his own life for sure quite independent of me (as did I of him I suppose except I am definitely a loner for the most part and my nonworking time was spent with our daughters or I did accompany him whenever he asked me to do so plus all that volunteerism when I stayed home/worked at home as a proofreader/copyeditor).
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